Divorce Marriage Bachelorism in PoliticsJuly 18, 2007
Tags: Divorce in Politics, Marriage in Politics, Bachelorism in Politics, Political alliances, Good Divorce, Eletoral, Jansevak
Electoral Cardiologist Counselor speaks to Jansevak candidates & Leaders; Electoral ruling powerloom Marriage-ism and Bachelorism; Divorce-ism in political alliances is different to divorce in family couple.
Eletoral ruling powerlooms Marriage-ism and Bachlorism
With regard to clerical, or priestly celibacy, modern leaders often mirror modern Luther’s viewpoint that chastity of fair election (Deprieved of fighting wthout fraud) is well-nigh impossible. Some contend that such a view is not ethical.
For there are eunuchs of getting votes who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the High Commands of political parties such as Italian, Mayavi, Mulayami High Commnds. He/she who is able to receive this, let him receive it. Such as Manmohan have aready rejected proposal to contest from Chandigarh. “I intend to contest assembly election from any constituency of Amritsar but I have not received any positive indication either from the Congress High Command or from my brother Manmohan Singh,” said by Surjeet Singh Kohli who is keen to contest
Other modern translations use the phrase “others have renounced marriage.” One might argue that Modern Jes… was merely describing this state of affairs, not sanctioning it, but this is made implausible by his concluding comment, “He who is able to receive this, let him receive it.”
But if it is to be denied that Jes… taught the desirability of celibacy (unmarried status) for those called to it, there can be little doubt about the following:
Wish that all were as Atal Bihari Vajpayee is. But each has his own special gift from God, one of one kind and one of another.
To the unmarried and the widows Ataljee and like him others may say that it is well for Jansevak leaders to remain single as Ataljee do.
But if Jansevak leaders cannot exercise self-control, they should marry with any foe or friend. For it is better to marry than to be aflame with passion . . .
Every one should remain in the state in which he was called . . . . .
Are you bound to a wife-ally? Do not seek to be free. Are you free from a wife-ally? Do not seek marriage.
But if you marry, you do not sin as NDA and UPA allies did not sin in the age of alliances of compulsion. Even behind this argument you can hide your sin of including tainted rapist murdrous in the cabinet as did by Manmohan Singh as said by his former guru Natwar Singh. . Yet those who marry will have worldly troubles, and I would spare you that. . .
I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried politician especially congress person is anxious about the affairs of the High Command Super PM, how to please that India’s pope;
But the married man is anxious about worldly affairs, how to please his wife-ally, as present government is pleasing from time to time DMK, RJD, NCP and even out side supporter Left communist parties.
And his interests are divided. And the unmarried woman is anxious about the affairs of the Lord-people, how to be holy in body and spirit; but the married woman is anxious about worldly affairs, how to please her husband-ally.
I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord-people . . .
So that he who marries his betrothed does well; and he who refrains from marriage will do better.
Divorce-ism in political alliances
Divorce in political life is totally opposite to the divorce-ism in the family life.
The Divorced Identity:
ne of the biggest things I’m grappling with these days is how people can treat you differently when they find out that you are divorced even before you get to the sordid details. Nobody warned that widow about how to reconcile the “Divorced Identity,” (DI) and a couple of recent experiences have almost motivated him to lie about it.
Most people prefer to date people who have never been married? “I’m not interested in dating divorced men – I think most people divorce too easily.” Opposite sec says each other generally. It is so often assumed that divorced people are somehow “bad” – that they failed to make it work, that they are incapable of the compromises necessary to make relationships work, and that they live in some kind of quiet immorality.
Opposite to this truth version of DI in politics is a quality. Habitual of side changing (Dal Badal) are always wanted and honored in politics. Here is no need to hide the divorce identity. In politics it is ofter assumed that divorced leader or parties are somehow “good” – that they are cunning to make it work, that they are capable of the compromises necessary to make relationships work, and that they live in some kind of quiet immorality and immorality is the biggest quality in the politics.
The Good Divorce: Keeping Your Family Together When Your Marriage Comes Apart by Constance Ahrons, Ph.D.
‘The Good Divorce’ is based on a groundbreaking longitudinal study of 98 divorced couples in the United States. The author addresses challenges faced by people divorcing today, such as ‘divorcism’ (society’s prejudice regarding divorce), and encourages healthy support for divorcing families, all of whom are going through an excruciating process. A great case is made for the importance of couples working together to make inevitable divorces GOOD divorces, and guidance is provided for working through the various stages of divorce in a healthy way. (Structuring a good divorce process, family by family, is the goal of the Center for Healthy Divorce. This book is used heavily in our work.)
I think that this book may be useful for politicians also. Every party and every leader should to learn good divorce.
Therre is another book. Spiritual Divorce: Divorce As a Catalyst for an Extraordinary Life by Debbie Ford, 2001.
Books Specifically for Parents
Child Friendly Divorce: A Divorce(d) Therapist’s Guide to Helping Your Children Thrive by Diane M. Berry, MSW, LCSW, JD, 2004.
“Why Did You Have to Get a Divorce? And When Can I Get a Hamster?” by Anthony E. Wolf, Ph.d.
I think that there is a scope to write a book on voters’ friendly divorces. It is fact that now voters have started to hate the parties and leaders who have taken divorces. So to avoid this danger above said book may be useful in politics.
By Premendra Agrawal